Why I’m Everyone’s Favourite –Yinka TNT

The stereotype is that a woman must remain flat or unchanging, and that her persona cannot incorporate multiple dimensions. In this part of the world, women are socially expected to limit their personas to a singular trait that does not truly reflect the complexity of who they are.

For beautiful Yinka Ayanda, relationship expert and romance show host, having a woman reduced to a socially prescribed character that is archaic and has little relevancy in a progressive society, diminishes her possibility for personal growth.

Her philosophy is that a woman should have the opportunity to express that she has a strength of character and is assertive.

Speaking about her qualities, Yinka said; “Yinka Ayanda is a woman loved by everyone (laughter). I know I have certain qualities that every woman would and should love to be known for. I try as much as possible to be kind, compassionate, supportive and be genuinely interested in others. I’m also a good listener. Essentially, I’m a person who makes others feel valued and cared for, regardless of their background or situation.

I can say that I self-discovered. I’ve found that the more confidence I have in myself, the less room there is for that nagging, negative voice inside my head to be like someone else. I readily understand and share the feelings of others. I give my time, effort, and support to those around me. And I don’t seek attention or boast about achievements.”

Yinka started her showbiz journey as a radio broadcaster and later delved into singing and hosting relationship topic shows online. Recently, she reintroduced an audio-visual musical track titled ‘Iya Ajarabuka’ (failed motherhood), which she released first on the YouTube in August 2024.

The track, she says, examines the impact of mothers’ influence on their children’s moral development, as well as the moral burdens and social implications a mother’s carelessness and waywardness could have on her children’s conducts. “The track was released last year to attack the failures of motherhood and help them to be better mothers,” she disclosed.

Often recognized for her poise and grace, Yinka has demonstrated a capacity to handle criticism with composure, using it as an opportunity for self-reflection and improvement.

She says she uses criticism to fuel her growth and become more empathetic towards others.

“Destructive criticisms I abhor. But I don’t care. It’s not even getting to me at all. I know that people criticize sometimes to kill one’s dream and aspirations. But I’m unperturbed. I use criticism to develop myself,” she noted.