Why My Husband Must Pay Me Before Sex – Housewife

MICHAEL AKINOLA
A housewife, Mrs. Adedoyin Agunbiade, has gone to Court seeking for the dissolution
of her 17-year old marriage with her husband, Ezekiel, who also claimed
that he was tired of paying her money before he sleeps with her.
P.M.EXPRESS reports that Mrs. Adedoyin told Oja
Oba/ Mapo Customary Court, Mapo, Ibadan, Oyo State, that she was tired and no
longer interested in the marriage with her estranged husband, Ezekiel
Agunbiade.
Mrs. Adedoyin told the Court that her estranged husband, Ezekiel, was an
irresponsible man and had threatened her life through constant beating during
their years of marriage.
But in response, Ezekiel expressed his satisfaction over her decision to seek
for divorce stating that his 17-year old marriage with her was turbulent
to the extent that she insisted that he must pay her before he will have sex
with her.
Mrs. Adedoyin told the Court that her marriage to Ezekiel was filled with
crisis. She, therefore, pleaded for it to be dissolved and the custody of their
four children granted her so that she could give them adequate care.
“My lord, I’m tired of the bondage I walked into 17
years ago called marriage” Adedoyin told the Court.
“Ezekiel turned me into the drum he beats every now and then. Hardly does a day
pass without him beating me to a pulp. We always fight because he is
irresponsible and regularly shirks his responsibilities towards me and our
children.”
“My lord, my husband is indifferent to our children’s welfare. I, therefore,
toil day and night to meet their needs. Ezekiel has never been interested in
our children’s education. I’m the one paying their school fees. One of them
gained admission into the secondary school and I informed him. I explained to
him in details the financial implication of this but he bluntly told me he was
not interested in his education.”
“Ezekiel goes irate anytime I call his attention to his responsibilities at
home. He has often threatened to set my shop ablaze and make me wretched. I do
report him to his parents and mine but he has refused to listen to their
counsel because he has no regard for them.”
“My lord, I’ve stopped loving my husband a long time ago. I no
longer want to continue in our marriage. I pray this honourable Court to please
separate us and grant me custody of the four children produced by our marriage
in order that I might give them adequate care” she stated.
Ezekiel, giving his evidence said, “My lord, I
believe I will fare better without my wife. She has consistently made life
difficult for me. I, therefore, agree to divorce”.
He went on: “Adedoyin lacks the virtues expected to be displayed by a dutiful
wife and mother. My wife comes home late almost every day. She will leave home
by 5am and will not return until it is late”.
“I have often complained about this but she has refused to change. Adedoyin
humiliates me by leaving our home and going to watch video in the house of a
man in the neighbourhood, who is a pastor. She will abandon our children at
home and spend hours in this man’s house. I once got angry and locked her out.
It took pleas from neighbours and the pastor’s wife before I let her in” he
added.
“My lord, my wife has grown wings and now dictates how we run the home and even
when we should have sex. Adedoyin starves me of sex. She will insist I must
give her money before I have sex with her. She went further to divide the house
into two. She moved out of my room into another with our female children and
asked our male children to sleep with me in my room.”
“My lord, Adedoyin gets me mad these days. I can’t stand her any longer. I
appeal to this Court to grant her prayer of divorce but grant me custody of our
children” he ended.
Giving his judgment, the Court President, Chief
Ademola Odunade, observed that their marriage had broken down irretrievably.
Ruling, he dissolved their union and granted the plaintiff custody of their
children. The defendant was asked to be responsible for their welfare –
feeding, education and health care most especially.
Ezekiel was asked to give Adedoyin the sum of N20,000 every month for their children’s feeding through the Court.