Revealed: Why Men Now Prefer House Maids As Wives

CYRIACUS IZUEKWE

Some parents may have worked against their daughters in marriage by engaging the services of house helps who took over domestic works to the detriment of their single daughters now without husbands.

P.M.EXPRESS investigations revealed that nowadays suitors seem to have preference for house maids for marriage than risking the trauma of broken homes in future by marrying those set of ladies who depended on house maids for every work in various homes.

This latest development has turned single female house helps to be in high demand by suitors who preferred them in marriages. Investigations revealed that some single men now preferred those house maids probably because of their past experiences with some ladies who they described as not being wife materials in the course of relationship.

P.M.EXPRESS spoke to some single men and those who had house maids as wives and they narrated their bad experiences and why they preferred house helps as wives. Some of the men even vowed that it was either the married good wives or they remained single, and have now focused their searches on house maids who they described as better trained as wives in order to have peaceful homes.

Mr. Clement Odinaka said he married his former wife some years ago from a particular family with the intention that they must have trained her well. However, he said that the marriage did not last up to three years before it crashed after they had two kids. He narrated that the bitter experience made him to vow never to marry again until his friend advised him to try any lady that had training as a house help.

Odinaka said he then tried and married his present wife, and since then he had peace of mind in his marriage. Mr. Odinake revealed that his former wife was educated but she did not realise that a woman who was married must be under her husband as the head of the family. He said he was virtually doing what a woman was supposed to be doing in the home – washing his clothes, cleaning the house, and even cooking while his former wife was busy either sleeping or on her phones or probably watching movies.

He noted that his former wife was badly  trained by her parents who ensured that they daughters were not doing anything at home leaving every house chores to house maids to do.

Another man, Mr. David Aso said he made up his mind because of what he saw and heard from their friends who were married and narrated what they were passing through in their marriages. He said he had a relationship with a lady he had wanted to marry but he was discouraged because of her trials and errors in the kitchen.

Mr. Aso narrated how he tried to correct her to learn how to cook but she told him that it was already late because she did not learn it from her parents as they had house helps who were doing those things. Aso said that the so called fiancé was suggesting to him that when they get married, they will look for a cook and house help that will be doing all those chores.

He said that based on her suggestion, he quickly settled with her, sent her away, and started looking for another woman who knew how to manage domestic affairs. He said that he eventually got one who happened to be a house help and he quickly went to her parents for introduction.

“I wish you can come to my house and see all she was doing and that has encouraged my friends to go looking for housemaid as wives” he said.

P.M.EXPRESS spoke to some women on the trends of marrying house maids by suitors.

The proprietress of Bright Future Primary & Secondary School, Ejigbo, Lagos, Mrs. Ify Njirika, said that the blame should go to parents who engaged house helps that took over the domestic duties in various homes to the detriment of their daughters. She noted that some parents do not want their female children to do anything in their homes and assigned every domestic duties to house helps.

She noted that the idea may appear like the parents want to give their children the best, but added that such privileges end up destroying those children when they became adults. She said that she was not surprised about the trend because the house maids had been indirectly trained on how to manage homes better than those sets of ladies who under their parents idle away while the maids were busy learning.

Mrs. Njirika advised that parents should expose their daughters to know about domestic works because they will not live with their daughters forever.

Another woman, Mrs. Agnes Chiduluo said it was better for parents to realise the damage they were doing to their daughters by bringing house maids to do the basic chores their daughters were supposed to do in their homes. She noted that any woman who does not know how to do those basic domestic works in her parents home, cannot cope when they get married and may not manage her family well.

She said that no man will like to marry a wife and will still be carrying plates or food flasks to buy food outside. Mrs. Agnes added that she will not support such union and never allow any of her relations to marry such a woman despite the level of education. She therefore warned the single young ladies to wake up and learn the basic domestic works and prepare themselves to be good wives to their husbands when they get married.

P.M.EXPRESS spoke to some other men and they spoke in favour of suitors desiring women who will live responsibly in their marriages and take care of their husbands needs for better homes in future.

However, some single ladies believed that not knowing how to do domestic chores will not be a problem if the couple loved and understood themselves. They added that such women will learn to do those chores along the line if that was what will satisfy their husbands.